Couples who have decided to get married should know that there are a lot of things to consider for a relationship to work. They should have a better understanding of what their roles are to avoid complications in a situation. They should have to realize that some things may happen out of their expectations that might lead to unnecessary failed decisions. They have to remember that things will never work even if they tried so hard to put effort into it. “In a fight, when one partner is overwhelmed, they may not be able to process their thoughts,” Dr. Megan Flemming, clinical psychologist and certified sex therapist, explains.
“My Husband Cheated On Me.”
Almost six years of marriage went down to extreme exhaustion and pain. My husband cheated on me due to lack of communication. He slowly lost his desire for the things that made us both happy and eventually complains a lot about how we deal with each other’s disagreements. He managed to divert his attention to the things I am not aware of that led to intense arguments.
I wanted him to stay. I wanted him to love me. However, the situation got out of hand, and everything caused me severe pain and heartache. His mistake made me hate him as much as I hate myself. I almost wanted to die and attempted suicide. But I am his wife, and he’s my husband. That’s when I realize that I need to work on things to be able to get it better.
Communication is a reliable way to get things done in the first place. “Covering up and lying about infidelity makes things worse, especially for the one being cheated on,” she continued — so spare your partner additional pain by being as honest as possible,” according to psychologist and dating and relationship expert Madeleine Mason Roantree. Talking to him about how his cheating makes me feel so alone made him realize that everything was wrong. He asked for forgiveness, and I find it slightly hard to forgive, but I did. I gave him a second chance. We both need to understand that the choices we made will not define us, but instead make us the person that no one thought we would be.
Why I decided to stay
I decided to stay only because of one reason. It’s a choice I wanted to make. I want to save my husband as much as I tried to protect myself. I want him to know that even if things don’t seem to work for us, we can always find ways to work it out. I realized that I have to make him understand how much I loved him so he can remember how much I mean to him. From that, I can save the marriage and the family I built with my husband. “No two people agree on everything, and that’s okay, but it’s important to be okay with each other’s differences.” — Lee Bowers, LP, PhD
People may find it hard to see things differently, but love is all about making decisions. It is where you can summarize the things you have sacrificed for you to achieve the happy ending that you have always wanted. Staying committed should be made for valid reasons. Acceptance and forgiveness will eventually make things better if you try to learn to see the picture differently. Act on the situation by working on the positive side and avoid condoning the mistake because love doesn’t mean letting go. It needs you to fight for it.